"The Art of Attraction" Song of Songs 1:1-2:7

Love Songs: A Study of the Song of Solomon “The Art of Attraction” Song of Solomon 1:1-2:7 Sunday, February 5th Choose from these suggestions to lead each person in your group to own their own growth. • What are some funny and misleading descriptions you’ve heard of from online dating profiles or blind date set-ups? • What qualities does our culture say attraction is built upon? What issues might be caused by people using those worldly qualities as a basis for a relationship? • What one area will you work on developing in yourself to be someone who helps those you love feel special and secure? • Which quality is the most important for you in a relationship — including friends and family? Why is that so important to you? • Share a time when someone made you feel special and secure. What did they do to make you feel that way? For Singles • How are you working on developing the qualities you’d like to see in someone else in your own life? • Talk about whether you think it's more important to work on these qualities so you'll attract a spouse or so you'll attract others to Christ working in and through you? • Do you spend more time looking for these qualities or developing them? What changes could help you become the kind of person the person you’re looking for is looking for? • Does the idea of marriage appeal to you? Why or why not? For Married Couples • How are you cultivating and improving attraction between you and your spouse? • What are some past insecurities your spouse has loved away? • Choose one quality you can work on as a couple. What could you do to develop that in your relationship? • Share an example of a marriage you admire. What have you observed that couple doing that works? End with a challenge to take action. Lead your group to help each person identify their next steps. • You can’t change someone else. You can only change you. What will you do this week to develop these four qualities? • How can our group support each other’s closest relationships?

Love Songs: A Study of the Song of Solomon “The Art of Attraction” Song of Solomon 1:1-2:7 Sunday, February 5th Choose from these suggestions to lead each person in your group to own their own growth. • What are some funny and misleading descriptions you’ve heard of from online dating profiles or blind date set-ups? • What qualities does our culture say attraction is built upon? What issues might be caused by people using those worldly qualities as a basis for a relationship? • What one area will you work on developing in yourself to be someone who helps those you love feel special and secure? • Which quality is the most important for you in a relationship — including friends and family? Why is that so important to you? • Share a time when someone made you feel special and secure. What did they do to make you feel that way? For Singles • How are you working on developing the qualities you’d like to see in someone else in your own life? • Talk about whether you think it's more important to work on these qualities so you'll attract a spouse or so you'll attract others to Christ working in and through you? • Do you spend more time looking for these qualities or developing them? What changes could help you become the kind of person the person you’re looking for is looking for? • Does the idea of marriage appeal to you? Why or why not? For Married Couples • How are you cultivating and improving attraction between you and your spouse? • What are some past insecurities your spouse has loved away? • Choose one quality you can work on as a couple. What could you do to develop that in your relationship? • Share an example of a marriage you admire. What have you observed that couple doing that works? End with a challenge to take action. Lead your group to help each person identify their next steps. • You can’t change someone else. You can only change you. What will you do this week to develop these four qualities? • How can our group support each other’s closest relationships?