Fighting Fair - Conflict and Growth

Love Songs: A Study of the Song of Solomon “Fighting Fair - Conflict and Growth” Song of Solomon 5:2-6:13 Sunday, February 26th Opening Discussion Questions Since tonight we are going to talk about conflict let’s start thinking about this topic with what is the dumbest thing you’ve ever fought over? Share a time when an unmet expectation made you a lot angrier than it should have. How does self-centeredness play into the things you fight about? Share examples and talk about how it could have been handled in a more others-focused way. How aware of your own self-centeredness do you think you are? How could you get a more objective view of it? What’s the difference between reacting and acting? Give some examples of times when this was handled well. Fighting Fair - Conflict and Growth Overview of Song of Solomon 5:2-6:13 Conflict: The Fight! (5:2-3) Don’t Retaliate (5:4-5) Seek Reconciliation (5:6-6:3) Recall What You Respect (6:4-13) For Singles • How much of a problem would your friends and family say anger is for you? How do you see anger affecting your relationships? • Which of your relationships has the most conflict? • Describe someone who is really good at reconciling differences. What can you do to be better at it? For Married Couples • Kids, money, schedule, work, household chores, or maybe holidays with in-laws? Which issue most easily turns into a fight for you? • List some good things about your spouse. How difficult is it for you to focus on these things during a fight? • What’s your impulse in a fight — to talk or walk? How does this fit in to your natural personality? What can you do to make this work better in your marriage? End with a challenge to take action. Lead your group to help each person identify their next steps. • What will you do this week to restore a relationship damaged by fighting? • What can you do to build your fighting skills this week? What would improve your relationships in this area? https://rainiervalleychurch.com/lates... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTuaQ...